What Are You A Yes To?

Tanya Gill: 00:00:00

Okay, my friends, today we are going to get so real in the trifecta of joy. And we are going to answer the biggest question you should be asking yourself as you're going into the new year. You know what I'm an empath and I have felt so much. In this past few weeks, I have felt heaviness, I have felt sadness. And I haven't just felt it for myself. I've been feeling it from others or with others. And I've noticed that that has been something that we as a collective have moved through, in what we I guess we'll call the holidays. And we found our moments of joy, whether it be the look on someone's face, or the sound in someone's voice on a phone call, or the taste of something special that is just a Christmas treat, or kind of text, we have been touched in many small ways. And big ways to see joy, even though as a collective, I think we have felt heavy. And so we're moving into a new year. And so really moving into new year means a lot of things. I personally think resolutions are shit. I have for years set goals, that have not really been anything more than writing some things down and walking away. And then I got real. And I realized that that there's really only one question that you need to answer for yourself. And that one question is, what are you? A yes to? So what are you a yes to? And this does not have to mean? A New Year's question. You can ask yourself this question at any fucking point of your life. What are you a yes to? What does that mean? What are you a yes to? It means because you are deepening in awareness, you're recognizing a lot of the things that you don't like, and that maybe don't feel right. And you're noticing a lot of things that you want to say no to, or that you don't think you can do. And you're focusing on those don'ts, knots. And knows. And when you focus on that, it sucks the energy away from what you are a yes to. And so there are so many parts of your life. There is your physical well being. There are your personal, intimate relationships, there are your family relationships, there's career, there's finance, there's in personal enjoyment, there are so many aspects of your life that you are managing. And I'm going to say it not balancing because balance is bullshit. You are not balancing it. But when you are managing it in whatever harmony it is right now, because everything flows in and flows out into the universe, and then it flows back in and sometimes it's on a shorter loop. And sometimes it's on a longer loop. But everything is in flow and that's harmony. And so what are you a yes to in creating that harmony for yourself? And the reason I ask what you are a yes to is because that energy, those thoughts, those feelings that you experience, when you know what you're a yes to are the most important piece in moving forward in joy. And that's what the trifecta of joy is about. So let's talk about energy. Oh my god. Okay. I'm gonna tell you a little energy story. We have a bark color for Wally, our sheepadoodle who you can find on Trifecta join in histogram. And he is the most loving, beautiful pain in the ass Barker in the world. So we got them those special colors, and the special collars vibrate, which I'm totally comfortable with, and worked for a while. And then they beat, which scares the shit out of Maggie because of her own trauma. But Wally is just unaffected by a beat, completely unaffected. So the other day I said, Maybe we should turn it into just a really low zap, just a really, really low one. And so of course, I decided I had to try it and holy shit, I had it in the palm of my hand, and it was a good solid set up. And it reminded me that energy can be transferred, both physically and emotionally. And I was like, okay, everything is energy, we know everything is energy, you know, what we see it around us, if we need physical evidence of it, we just need to know, to pay attention to the moon and tides, right. Or if we, if we need to feel it, in that space of trust, and hope, we may connect it to something larger, like the universe, or God, or some version there of connected to source, that we all have energy in our bodies and in our cells. And in my coffee cup this morning. Energy is everywhere. Energy is everywhere, and you are energy, and I am energy. And together. We can create all kinds of energies. So I asked you, What the hell are you yes to? What do you want in your life? And as you're doing that, and asking yourself that question, ask yourself, not about the physical shit, but about the feelings. Ask yourself, what feelings are you a yes to, you can write everything else down physical that you want as well. If you need that speedboat, put it on that list of what you are yes to. And then also consider what feelings you are a yes to. Because that is really what matters. Now, if you don't know how to get started, go, he's paper, draw a line down the middle. And put I don't want on one side and just list it. Just list all the things you don't want. And then on the other side, focus on what you do want. Write it down? What do you want? Because that will tell you a lot about what you are a hell yes to. So that that's how you can get started. It doesn't have to be complicated. And it doesn't have to be a New Year's thing. A lot of people are needing some fucking space to rest. Take it. People are tired. Take it. No, I actually that's why I wrote the book. I wrote, I wrote the trifecta of joy, for that very reason. Because helpers are exhausted. And because helping in the act of doing is really hard work both mentally and physically, but most importantly, split up spiritually. And so I wrote the book to help you step in, just like that. Okay, so I did make myself some notes to make sure that we were staying on track, and I've been all over the place. But one of the things that I set for myself every year is a word. And that word sets a really deep intention for where I'm headed that year, and haven't set my word yet. And I'll tell you why I haven't set my word yet. I haven't set my word yet. Because this year I created my own version of, of a guide, if you will, or I call it a chapter in in in now. And it's called awakening 2023 And it's a gentle look back on the year that was a real look at the life that you're in right now. And